If you were asked what are the factors that contribute to a satisfying marriage/relationship. You will probably respond with answers such as:
Love, Commitment, Trust, Time, Attention, Good Communication, Partnership, Tolerance, Patience, Openness, Honesty, Respect, Sharing, Consideration, Generosity, Willingness/Ability to Compromise and so on.
All these are awesome and beautiful Answers. But I sincerely tell you that, a Successful Marriage is often about winning the fight, over the voices in your head and submitting to voice of your Spirit Man. The Voice of God.
You see in Marriage, we fight too many battles that don’t matter. Both silent and loud battles. We fight to prove who is in charge, who has more control over the other and the situations at home, we fight to show who is smarter or more intelligent than the other. The truth is that, if that battle does not help the destiny of your marriage, then it futile and will ruin your marriage.
Let me share with you a secret that has helped me, not just in marriage, but with every other relationship I have ever had.
One of them, speaking asked “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’
This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it:
Love your neighbour as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
I believe that virtually every marital problem can be traced back to one or both partners failing to abide by these two laws. The same is true of any relationship. The minute we begin to focus on our own wants and needs over those of God or our spouse; we’re destined for trouble.
Before you start trying to prove a point to your spouse, or try to win that argument, or take that selfish decision. I challenge you to shift the focus from Self. Focus on God First. What does God expect of me in this situation, Secondly, focus on the Love you have for your spouse. This will help you not to take a selfish decision ever again in your life.
No Man will hurt His wife, physically or emotionally, because He truly loves her. No woman can say, the reason I cheated on my husband or stole from him is because I love Him so much. It doesn’t hold water.
Always focusing on your own wants and needs over those of God or our spouse; will always lead to selfish decisions, which will destroy your marriage.
If this blessed you, Kindly share it to your friends and loved ones.