Love hacks are quick, simple practices that change the way you think about your partner. Like other forms of hacking, they won’t fix deep, underlying problems—but they are a helpful patch to tide you over into the future.
For you to fix deep and underlying problems, a couple will have to engage in practices that ensure long-term solution for marriage issues like Communication in Marriage, Responsiveness in Marriage, Being Sincere. We will discuss these long lasting solutions in another publication.
For today, here are some of the love hacks Successful Marriages recommends:
Practice Gratitude: Saying thank you to your partner could increase your commitment to the relationship.
Offer Physical Touch: In one study, when experimenters told one partner to affectionately touch the other while watching a video, the other partner felt more trusting and secure—even if they knew the touch was prescribed.
Celebrate their Joy: Research suggests that responding actively and positively to a partner’s good news—by showing our delight and asking follow-up questions—may be as important as empathising with their bad news.
Gain perspective on a conflict: Think about a conflict you’re having with your partner from a third-party perspective—and try to bring this objectivity into the heat of the moment.
Give them the Benefit of the Doubt: When something goes wrong, make your first thought a generous one—“Maybe there was an accident on the highway,” not “He’s always late—he just doesn’t respect my time.” On the flip side, when something goes right, you can interpret that generously, too: “She’s such a kind person” rather than “She must be feeling guilty for something.”
Boost your Sense of Security: When your partner compliments you, spend some time thinking about why they did so. This can help people low in self-esteem feel more secure in their relationship.
Cultivate a growth Mindset: Relationships take work, and it helps to recognise this rather than expecting everything to be perfect naturally—or assuming that problems will never go away. “It’s constructive to think of difficulties not only as unpleasant circumstances to be endured, but also as opportunities to learn about each other and to deepen the relationship,”