How To Know The Perfect Spouse: Things To Look Out For.
One of the most difficult decisions one would make in life is the choice of the “perfect spouse.” When we say it is a difficult decision, we do not mean it is impossible; instead, it is challenging and goes on to affect every aspect of our lives until we take a bow.
However, to help you make the right choice, we have researched and compiled this article to help you know your “perfect” spouse. Read on.
Is There Any Perfect Spouse?
Everyone wants that sweet soul who completes and ticks almost all our boxes. However, in the real sense, there is no perfect spouse.
This is simply because everyone has curves and edges that can only be tolerated and covered with love.
While we project that, it is also essential to look for a spouse with the minimum
edges and curves.
That said, we will look at the practical ways to know the “perfect” spouse in the next section. Keep reading.
How To Know The Perfect Spouse
The steps we will share below are practical ways to know and choose your missing ribs.
1.Fix You
The number one and most crucial step in knowing the perfect spouse is fixing you. Fixing you entails a lot; however, once you are fixed, you can comfortably choose your spouse.
- Work On Your Mindset: Your mind is the engine of every decision. Your mind is where everything emanates. Having a positive mindset will help attract the kind of spouse you need in your life. Let go of every negativity and embrace life positively. Also, have an abundance mindset and eschew a scarcity mindset.
- Love Yourself: Loving yourself enough is very paramount. This is hinged on the fact that you can only give what you have. Once love is far from you, or you do not love yourself as supposed, you may not be able to love your spouse when you find them.
- Heal From Your Past Experience: Probably, you have been in different bad relationships in the past. You feel hurt emotionally. We advise that you take your time to heal before going back to the dating pool to choose your life partner.
Forgive people who hurt you, associate with people who are positive-minded, and keep investing in your personal growth and development.
2. Know What You Want
One of the many reasons people find it hard to know their suitable spouses and also why many choose wrongly is because they do not know exactly what they want.
If you must choose the perfect or right partner, you must know what you really want in your ideal spouse while holding firmly to the fact that nobody is 100 percent perfect.
Take a pen and paper and write down everything you want from your spouse. Kind? Tall? Jovial or reserved? Take your time and list every character or feature you want.
You must have the significant characters deduced from your list—maybe three or four core values. Do not settle for less.
In addition, you should also list what you do not want in a spouse and tick out the core ones.
One thing is to know who and what you want in your ideal spouse, and another is to know where the “who” is.
Suppose you require a young, well-mannered, business-oriented lady or a tall, purpose-driven young man. Where do you think you will find them? In a bar? The mosque or church? Business seminars or conferences?
We will allow you to think about that. Figure out where your ideal spouse visits, work, or stays around and get yourself acquitted.
4. Make Friends
Research has proven that you will likely bond with your friend and turn to partners. Therefore, we encourage you to spread your net and make new friends.
Who knows, the red bells might start ringing!
5. Discuss With Trusted People Around You.
Another proven way to know the perfect spouse is to discuss your choice of spouse with people around you.
They could be your parents, siblings, colleagues, bosses, and friends. Be open to a recommendation from them.
Again, if you have a spouse you plan to settle down with, you can present them to your people for vetting. Meanwhile, you have to be cautious while doing so.
Things To Look Out For In A Spouse
In this article section, we shall outline the core values to look for in a spouse. Below are some of them;
- Choose someone who completes you.
- A kind spouse is irreplaceable.
- Choose a partner that respects you enough.
- Do not get entangled with someone who treats people around him poorly. You won’t be an exception in the long run.
- Choose a partner who is compatible with you and your family. Yes, someone who can cope with your family.
- Ensure that your partner is family oriented. This is important in building a strong family.
- Choose someone who is emotionally intelligent and can handle anger.
- Ensure that you choose someone who forgives and forgets, tolerates, and also endures.
- Choose someone eager to invest in the relationship. Do not settle with someone who has nothing to lose.
- Choose an honest and positively-minded spouse.
Frequently Asked Questions
What should I look for in a good spouse?
If you want to have peace of mind, look for the following;
- Honesty
- Sexual and physical attraction
- Openness
- Respect
- Endurance and tolerance
- Emotional intelligence
- Humor
- Hard-working
- Giving and forgiving, among others.
How do you know the right spouse for you?
To know the right spouse, you ensure they tick the right boxes. Remember, we emphasized knowing what you want and what you do not want.
So, take your time to know if your spouse is ticking the right boxes.
What are the seven factors to consider before choosing a life partner?
Below are the factors that must be considered;
- Character
- Their family background
- Health
- Maturity
- Core values
- Occupation
- Past
What are the red flags in a relationship?
Red flags are partly personal. This means what you do not want from a partner are your red flags.
However, generally, abuse in any form is the number one red flag in a relationship, followed by cheating and lying.
Conclusion
Choosing the perfect spouse can be difficult; however, it is not impossible. To choose the right partner, you have to fix yourself, know what you want, and also go for what you want.
We believe this article was helpful to you. Feel free to share your thoughts and ask questions in the comments section. We shall respond swiftly.