I had a talk with a friend of mine about a particular pretty lady. I noticed they were fund of each other, they could talk about everything together, consolidate each other, support one another, and help find solutions.

So, one day I asked him, you told me you were looking for a lady to settle down with, how about this lady you are so fund of? His response to me was “Ah… forget that lady, we’ve been friends since secondary school, I can’t marry her”. Sincerely, I was shocked.

What is wrong with you! That is Exactly who you should get married to!! That was what I screamed.

Just to be sure… I asked again, does she have any character traits you don’t like? He responded “No”. Are there any medical reasons you can’t get married to her? he also responded “No”.

Then I asked what the problem is, and he responded we’ve known ourselves too well for over 12 years; she is a wonderful lady, I am even trying to organize her for one of my guy.

You see, the problem is guys will shun getting married to their long time friends, they’ll go out, meet and marry a complete stranger because she has a great body and or beautiful face. Ladies will in the same manner, meet and marry a complete stranger because he is rich or handsome.

The real problem begins, after the wedding, down the line, because beauty fades away, and money isn’t really all that matters, you’ll be living with a complete stranger. Experiencing a lot of stress, because you truly weren’t friends with your spouse.

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship, that makes unhappy marriages!

Now let me tell  you five (5) benefits of marrying your best friend.

  1. Your best friend knows you the best: Your best friend already knows you to your core. And, they adore you just as you are. If you are thinking about marrying someone you consider your best friend, this should be on top of your list because they know you! You can be yourself with your best friend. And, it is your best friend who will know exactly how to comfort you when you need support.
  2. You and your best friend share values: I wrote about this extensively in my article titled “Marry someone who shares your Core Values”. The initial passions and infatuations will inevitably wear off, and you will get to know each other in ways that leaves little to discover about each other. It is your values that will then serve as the main glue that holds the marriage together. Friendships are necessarily based on mutual core values. And when you intend to spend an entire life with someone, the healthiest foundation for your relationship are principles you both believe in.
  3. You can be yourself with your best friend: You don’t have to fake yourself when you are with your best friend. They know you in and out. And that is the best part of this relationship! You can be yourself and speak your mind. You don’t have to worry about being judged.
  4. Fights won’t last for long: Have you ever been angry with your best friend for too long? Or, have they held onto any grudge for ages? If the answer is a big ‘NO,’ you already know it too well that the struggles hardly last when fighting with your best friend. On the other hand, you might have heard of couples who often fight over silly reasons and drag their tussles till hell freezes over! If you are married to your best friend, you are more likely to wind up your issues sooner than later.
  5. You can avoid the distressing emotional dramas: Friendships are based on respect. They are void of the opportunity to engage in endless arguments, insults, or psychological games. Although friends do fight, they do it constructively. When it comes to true friendship, you do not engage in emotional blackmail to prove your point. You know that you can speak your heart out, so there’s no reason for you to get into those insane melodramatic commotions. So if you decide to marry your best friend, you are actually buying yourself a lot of peace!

Someone asked me, as a lady what if the guys in my circle of friends now are not talking marriage? What do I do.

My response was simple, if in your circle of friends right now.. there is no one talking marriage.

Then make sure you build friendship with the guy from outside your circle first before marrying him. By all means, don’t marry a stranger. Make sure you truly know the man or woman who you will spend the rest of your life with. Trust me; You’ll be happier that way.

If this has helped you, please share it on your social media handles. You could just be helping someone make the right decision.

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